When You Discover You Perfect DDlg Rules, Your Dynamic Blossoms Before Your Eyes
So, you put on your cutest puppy dog eyes, and sweetly asked your daddy for DDlg rules. But, uh, wtf should you do next
Well, first things first:
Stop running around like a chicken with its head cut off, trying to find the perfect rules for littles.
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Second things second:
You ready spaghetti to discover the secrets behind your perfect little space rules?
Let’s get to it!
Back to the Basics, Babycakes
Since we’re covering the ins-and-outs of Daddy Dom rules for littles, we’d be silly not to go over the basic building blocks!
(You might already have this part down pat, though, so feel free to skip ahead)
Rules are incredibly common in DDlg dynamics—no matter how strict or lax—because of their very nature.
What exactly does that mean?
Daddy Dom little girl relationships (and other Caregiver little dynamics) require a power exchange.
A power exchange involves one of the partners to give up control to the other partner, for a set period-of-time…or indefinitely.
While that might sound all scary and stuff, it’s totally not. Pinky promise!
In other words, it means littles give up control to their Caregivers, in some capacity.
Now, you might be thinking, “Well, heck! Our dynamic isn’t sexual or anything. It’s just a sweet time where we allow ourselves into our headspaces. Neither one of us gives up control.”
It might seem that way on-the-surface, but let’s dive into things a little more.
Try This Tongue-Twister: Caregiver/little Dynamics in Kink
When you hear the term “D/s” or “Dominant/submissive”, there’s a good chance you immediately think of dungeons and pain. And even if you don’t, it’s in the back of your mind.
But, that’s a huge misconception. Dom and sub relationships can and often do, revolve around this type of play.
HOWEVER,
D/s relationships have a number of subsets. The one we’re covering is under the Caregiver little umbrella.
Yep—you read that correctly.
CGl dynamics fall under Dom and sub dynamics.
There are power exchanges associated with both of them. While one may be more “harsh” and the other more “gentle”, they have the same type of underlying structure.
While that power exchange comes in many forms, rules are a very common one.
That’s because little space or DDlg rules take the power of choosing how to structure their day/week/month of their own accord, and hand that responsibility to the Caregiver.
Even if they’re just rules like “make your bed” or “eat 2 healthy meals a day”, the little gives the power to their Caregiver to enforce those rules.
Just like a kid who doesn’t complete chores, Caregivers can implement consequences for littles who don’t follow the rules.
One thing to note is that littles without Caregivers can totally give themselves rules!
You’re implementing your own structure, so it’s easier to skip…but it’s totally doable!
Our owner, Eden, has done it a number of time in the past. It’s hard to start at first, but super worth it!
Regardless of your relationship status, though, we got a lotta ground to cover!
What DDlg Rules Should You Choose? Helppppp Meeeeeee!
Every relationship and person is different—no matter how many similarities you find!
So, you’ll never find the perfect one-size-fits-all set-of-DDlg-rules-for-littles. Instead, you gotta sit down and lay the groundwork yourself.
But, we’re not leaving you hanging!
We’ll walk you through every-step, to building the structure of your relationship!
Here’s the number one thing you need to remember:
A rule should always help—not add extra stress.
So, uh, what exactly makes a rule “good”?
DDlg Rules That Rock Your Freakin’ Sock Off
Hey, littles, you’re not gonna like what you’re about to hear, but it’s good for you (Ugh, I know….)
A rule isn’t bad just because you don’t like it. Sometimes things we don’t like actually make us better people.
Trust me—I’m vomiting just as hard as you. Laundry? Ha. Kiss my butt.
Good rules are based on:
- Safety
- Helping a little achieve a goal
- Providing structure
- Furthering your dynamic
Safety Rules
It’s pretty obvious, but safety rules are intended to keep littles away from danger.
We all know littles can be, shall we say….forgetful? Of their surroundings, levels-of-hunger, being tired....
Some common little space safety rules include:
- Telling Daddy when you’re meeting up with someone
- Informing Daddy when you arrive home/to your destination
- Voicing any concerns during playtime
While they might feel silly, they add an extra layer of "my little's ok"--which makes both of your lives better!
Goal-Achieving Rules
As you can probably guess, these rules help littles reach a goal or milestone.
BUT,
Goal-oriented rules should only come from the little. Even if little complains about something, but never asks for a rule, then a rule shouldn’t be implemented.
Now, you can gently nudge or ask—but nothing more. ONLY the little dictates these rules.
Some of the more common ones are:
- Setting a workout routine
- Creating a meal plan & sticking to it
- Improving better organizational habits
These DDlg rules typically make up a smaller portion of your rules.
General Structure Rules
Pretty much everything that doesn’t fall into the first 2 categories, goes under general structure.
These types of DDlg rules are free reign for both Caregiver and little, to strike the right structure for you both.
Some common ones are:
- Following a bed time
- Eating a certain number of meals
- Sending good morning/goodnight texts
- Certain chores
An important note: Chores are NOT rules. BUT, they can overlap!
Caregiver Rules
Oh, you thought we were done? Nay nay!
While those general rules are meant for everyday life, there’s something missing: Your dynamic.
This is where Caregiver rules come into play. When a CG wants their little to do something specific, just add it to the list…as long as little agrees!
Some common rules are:
- Caregiver chooses littles underwear
- Sending a pic of your outfit to Caregiver
- Setting aside time for littlespace activities
Now that you have a bunch of ideas for great DDlg rules, we gotta cover the flip side:
Bad rules.
Because, yes, bad rules exist, too.
What Makes a Little Space Rule “Bad”?
Bad usually means harmful to someone. But in this case, it also includes things that are unnecessary.
For example, I had this ridiculously stupid rule, when I was with my first daddy.
I wasn’t allowed to open my own car door—I had to freakin’ wait for him to do it.
Not only was it incredibly inconvenient, he didn’t implement consistently, never punished if I didn’t follow the rule, and it annoyed the frickin’ crap out of me.
It was a bad rule because it definitely didn’t help, only hindered.
As you can see, a bad rule doesn’t have to actually hurt someone. “Bad” can mean it doesn’t make your life better.
Some other bad, non-malicious DDlg rules can include:
- Never allowing little to use knives or scissors on their own
- Not permitting typos in a text message
- Caregiver must order food at a restaurant
Now, there are bad rules that are bad bad. I’m sure you can think of a few.
But, here are some to watch out for:
- Requiring a little to stay a certain weight or size
- Not allowing a little to cry
- Making a little check in before they call or text friends or family
Every single one of these rules for littles are designed to make the little’s life harder.
So, how do you avoid this pitfall? Sit down and talk about it with each other!
Diving Deep into Your Dynamic
Whenever you sit down for a DDlg rules discussion, you should come to the table with a few things.
Littles:
Know what you want help with, whether it’s doing laundry, or going grocery shopping. Be honest with yourself. Just because you hate it, doesn’t mean you won’t benefit from the structure.
Caregivers:
Understand that you might want a rule, but it might not work for your little. In the same breath, learn to recognize where you need to lay-down-the-law, when they're merely whining.
It’s all about compromise and understanding, which ultimately leads to a smoother dynamic.
Oh, and you don’t have to keep the rules you originally chose. You don’t know what works, until you actually implement them.
You can add, subtract, or change any rule, at any time. These things aren’t etched in glass.
So, if one of you hates a specific rule, then it’s time to reconsider.
Why did you choose it in the first place? Does it need to be tweaked, or scrapped entirely?
Another important piece:
Don’t go balls-to-the-wall, when you first implement rules. I know you want to and it seems like a good idea.
But, I promise you’ll be happier with the “less is more” mentality. You can always add more. But, figuring out which ones to remove is a pain in the butt.
To keep you both excited (and sane) about the whole choosing rules process, keep it simple.
You only need a handful of patience and a big scoop of understanding, to bake your DDlg rules to sweeten up your dynamic in the bestest way possible!
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